I say “Middlestein-ing” because my husband’s family has certain highly neurotic behaviors that the younger generation have made into a verb, as in “They were …..-ing out so bad!” Try this with any family name. It works because every family is its own universe and has its own specific patterns, made up of certain undeniable behaviors.
Anyhow, there’s a short piece in yesterday’s New York Times Book Review about novelist Jami Attenberg devout wish that people not conflate her writing and her life.
She wrote the beloved (at least by me) The Middlesteins, an “expansive” (quotes because a main character is obese) novel about self-destruction, family ties, divorce and being a child of divorce; and family wounds and the differences between how siblings react. It was really much more lovable to read than I’m making it sound.